Adarsha Shah's Blog

Have you ever been to a marriage where you are the only family member? It has been more than a year that I attended a marriage where I was the only family member available for the whole night, and the full family is consist of more than 50 people. I WAS THERE BECAUSE I BELIEVE EVERY ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE THEIR LIFE PARTNER, GOOD OR BAD, WHATEVER. WHO AM I TO JUDGE SOMEONE? Ho sakta hai ki mujhe kisi insan se parasani ho par iska ye matlab nahi ki mai apne vichar puri duniye pe thop de. Us waqt mere akele hone ki em matr wajha ye thi ki kisi ne baki sabhi par apne vichar thop diye the, aaj v thopa hua hai aur log duvidha me kaha ki kya kare, kaha jai? Par sachai to yahi hai ki aap apne vichar ek bar to kisi pe thop sakte hai par bar bar bhut dino tak to nahi. Apne vichar apne tak rakhiye, dusro ko apne vichar jahir karne dijiye. I really don't understand why do we have this culture to choose the life partner for others? where do we find this culture? I have heard of

You know where it starts? With us. Either we are the culprit or we are the ignorant. I find friends talking about Hollywood movies, why not movies like Pink. How much we are willing to stand by someone we don't even know? Aajnabi se dur raho, right? how many of us treat the girl with respect whom we had a break-up with? She is not of a good character, right ? Its an Opportunity for us if we find a girl who just had a break-up. No one cares what she thinks. if she comes with you she is a SLU_ and if she doesn't, we comment on her, Obviously nothing good. It's nicely described in the movie the rule book that we boys follow. Ever wondered how it feels to be called with some special adjectives. A family is the greatest gift anyone can have. how would it feel to lose the confidence of a family bcoz of some mistakes done unintentionally? We have friends at their bad times and we say "yarr  dur raho uusce, uusne aaisa kia, wo aaisa/aaisi hai&quo

Whatever they were in life, here, in the end, each man stood with courage and honor. They fought for the ones who couldn't fight for themselves, and they died for them too. All to win something that didn't belong to them. It was... MAGNIFICIENT. Who you are? are you strong? strong enough to fight for someone you don't even know? What do we do when we are in a problem? seek for help? We search for people who already have been there and can be there again for us, Someone who could stand for us. We don't always find one, sometimes we are left alone, so alone that even our close friends part ways, so far away that they even refuse to talk with us. This is the time that a strong person is born or a weak person is sent to death.  We have heard a lot of deaths like this when a weak person crosses its level of tolerance and gives up his life. We can surely point fingers on them that they were weak, they should have fought, but this won't make us less gui

"You will always remain a dog... Until you are taught to be the master..." If I say in nice words, "You will always be dominated by others until you are taught to dominate others..." This is the rule of nature, the animal which can dominate other animals rules the Jungle and no one is there to question unless the ruler's dominance falls weak. This fact is well displayed in the movie Django, A black man named Django serving as a slave for years was bought by a businessman, obviously for personal benefits, but apart from that personal benefit, he declared him a free man and taught him to be a free man and also, how to do the business that he did. At the end of the movie, Django was supposed to free his wife from some white owner. He went to that place, that businessman accompanied and suggested a plan but the plan failed and got the businessman killed and himself slaved again. On the way when Django was being carried in a cell by 3 white men along wit

It started when I got qualified for the 2nd level test for Persistent Systems, I was the only one from my college qualified for the Advanced Coding test. It was a coding test and I was disconnected form coding for last two years, this made my friends say that I cannot make it up. I too smiled and replied, but I was hurt from the inside. The day before the coding test, I told few of my friends that I am going to make it up. I didn't had any preparations, I was studying JAVA when one of my friends called and adviced me to go for sample questions of Advanced Coding test and not JAVA theory. I went with his advice and opened a few sample questions, was unable to solve any as I was trying the hardest one, but still, I believed I will make it up. The next day my code passed 14  out of 15 test cases in my Advanced Coding round. I was one of the only 7 people qualified out of 3 groups of colleges( 25+ colleges in West Bengal). Now I was not prepared for the technical Interview, I d

How was your last breakup?  Maybe you cried for about 3-4 days, were upset for few weeks, and finally, you were emotionally broken and decided never to trust anyone again. Right? Imagine how tough it would be for a girl who was physically abused!!! It was just an emotional attachment that turned you this much, it took you so long to recover, and that too not completely... What about her? Maybe she had relations with 100s, but it was with her approval. When someone refused to stay emotionally attached to you, you were broken for months. So how long does she require to recover from being physically abused??? I really don't understand why this happens, like what do we need?  Sex? Go for a prostitute you will have it, why to kill someone from inside?  Revenge with that particular girl? Take your revenge but at least maintain the level of your revenge, why to take someone's dignity in revenge? Revenge from someone else? How would it be if I slapped your younger b

Parents are parents... what is this normal and smart ??  Exactly! Parents are Parents, just the difference lies in the way of influence and execution. let's talk in details... I ask you to do something for me... how many times will you do it for me?? What if I asked u to do the same job for yourself, where I made u count your benefits and generated some interest in you. Won't you be doing it better and for a longer time? You are doing the same job ... but there is a huge difference. I can assure you the second one will prove to be better....and that is how smart parents operate. They never set rules, you are never forced, u are just made aware of the benefits and awakened some Interest, and you work on your own. Unlike the normal parents who try to impose their decision. let us take an example of one's gf or bf, we all are happy to have one, Right ?? Now parents worry about there child and the families reputation... Right?? So normal parents will stop u from getti

This story proves the truth of that old saying, “where there’s a will, there’s a way.” It was told to me by that beloved educator and clergyman, the late Frank W. Gunsaulus, who began his preaching career in the stockyards region of South Chicago. While Dr. Gunsaulus was going through college, he observed many defects in our educational system, defects which he believed he could correct, if he were the head of a college. His deepest desire was to become the directing head of an educational institution in which young men and women would be taught to “learn by doing.” He made up his mind to organize a new college in which he could carry out his ideas, without being handicapped by orthodox methods of education. He needed a million dollars to put the project across! Where was he to lay his hands on so large a sum of money? That was the question that absorbed most of this ambitious young preacher’s thought. But he couldn’t seem to make any progress. Every night he took that thought to bed w

A 21 years old student sitting in the interviewer's chair. One who never sat for a single interview took face to face interview of more than 150 candidates. Though he is just 21 years old, the company gave him the full responsibility of hiring. Sitting along with 15-20 years experienced people, consulting with them, he shortlisted the candidates and finalized their salary. Quality was the highest priority, and only 10 out of 150 candidates were shortlisted. Being not so old Company the budget was a huge concern, still, the company has tried to improvise the employee condition at its location setting the minimum salary higher than the normal market trend. The salary was finalized keeping both, the candidate and the company, comfortable. There were cases when the salary demand went beyond the maximum salary slab, considering the quality and standard of the candidate, the company went beyond the norms and finalized a salary more than the maximum salary slab. The confidence and pro

She asked him, "How much are you selling the eggs for?" The old seller replied to her, "Rs.5/- for one egg. She said to him, "I will take 6 eggs for Rs.25/- or I will leave." The old seller replied, "Come take them. Maybe this is a good beginning because I have not been able to sell any today." She took it and walked away with a feeling that she has won. She went to pick her friend and invited her to a posh restaurant. She and her friend sat down and ordered what they liked. The bill was Rs.1,400/-. She gave him Rs. 1,500/- and said to the owner of the restaurant: "Keep the change." The bottom line is: Why do we always show that we have the power when we buy from the needy and the poor? And why are we generous with those who do not need our generosity? Every time a poor child comes to me to sell something simple, I remember a tweet from the son of a rich man who said, "After every prayer, my father used to buy simple goods fr

Yesterday I was looking for these slippers in the tibetan market, Asansol. We looked in the first lane and then in the 2nd lane, but was unable to find them, we started asking the shop owners about the slippers, 1st said "is bar koi Nhi laya, nhi mile ga.", 2nd said the same, 3rd said the same, 4th made a difference saying "isi lane me ek shop pe maine dekha hai wo slippers, to aap aage dekh lo, sayad mil jai.", next was the same shop that the 4th mentiond and we bought 3 such slippers. a very simple story right ?? This is how life is, there can be "no(s)" in your life, but that doesn't mean there is no "yes" in your life, maybe 1 no, 2 nos, 3 nos, but somewhere there will be a "yes" and that is what you are looking for... what if, mai 2 shop me puch ke wapas chala gaya hota ?? sayad aaj mere mom ke lia mai wo slippers nhi la pata... Start your 2018 with a resolution that you will never give up, how so small or big it is.. you