Parents are parents... what is this normal and smart ??
Exactly! Parents are Parents, just the difference lies in the way of influence and execution.
let's talk in details...
I ask you to do something for me... how many times will you do it for me??
What if I asked u to do the same job for yourself, where I made u count your benefits and generated some interest in you. Won't you be doing it better and for a longer time?
You are doing the same job ... but there is a huge difference. I can assure you the second one will prove to be better....and that is how smart parents operate. They never set rules, you are never forced, u are just made aware of the benefits and awakened some Interest, and you work on your own. Unlike the normal parents who try to impose their decision.
let us take an example of one's gf or bf, we all are happy to have one, Right ??
Now parents worry about there child and the families reputation... Right?? So normal parents will stop u from getting in touch with your gf/ bf so that the families dignity and reputation is maintained, Whereas smart parents will ask u like- "Look I m not going to stop you but keep one thing in mind that whatever you do, make sure, no one points a single finger on you, whole society knows that you are a good boy/ girl, don't hurt this reputation."
Both accomplish the same goal but with a huge difference. one sets the child upset and frustrated from his/her family along with the uncertainty that the child will follow the rules or not? Other brings cheers to the child's face along with the feeling of responsibility of his/ her and the families reputation on his/ her head.
Just 2 different way of saying ... that's all ... isn't that amazing???
Why would you try to impose a decision when you can make smiles for the same job??
If we look from a distance, what I am talking about is freedom, along with trust and responsibility.
You know, no one likes restrictions, not even animals, we are humans though. Freedom is a great gift to anyone, and if you offer freedom you can receive anything in return. Parents can tie this freedom with responsibilities and see how their child climb hights. They will never find a reason to impose a decision and their child will be ready to do anything for his/ her parents.
Speaking of the child, he/she will always trust his/ her parents and will never let the trust broken. A smile not just on the face but also in heart and the feeling that his/ her parents trust him/ her will never let them go on a wrong track. The best mutual benefit is both will get to know each other and will have an extream level of confidence for each other, quality talks about the day and life, feedbacks & advice about wrongdoing and the best outcome is Parents will always know when the child is going wrong and can save them from falling.
This is also an amazing experience how smart parents stop u from falling, let's assume a child is choosing a track and parents know its a wrong track, but Smart parents don't stop at the very moment, being smart parents they will just make their child warn instead of stopping them and will walk along with the child checking every step. they will save the child from falling at the extream falling point. Which will result in 2 things
1. child realizes the value of his/ her parent's comment and warning and will think 50 times before going against there warning.
2. the will know to judge good and bad tracks, they will develop decision-making skills as they understand what is good and bad.. as they have gone through a bad track, which was not possible otherwise
Exactly! Parents are Parents, just the difference lies in the way of influence and execution.
let's talk in details...
I ask you to do something for me... how many times will you do it for me??
What if I asked u to do the same job for yourself, where I made u count your benefits and generated some interest in you. Won't you be doing it better and for a longer time?
You are doing the same job ... but there is a huge difference. I can assure you the second one will prove to be better....and that is how smart parents operate. They never set rules, you are never forced, u are just made aware of the benefits and awakened some Interest, and you work on your own. Unlike the normal parents who try to impose their decision.
let us take an example of one's gf or bf, we all are happy to have one, Right ??
Now parents worry about there child and the families reputation... Right?? So normal parents will stop u from getting in touch with your gf/ bf so that the families dignity and reputation is maintained, Whereas smart parents will ask u like- "Look I m not going to stop you but keep one thing in mind that whatever you do, make sure, no one points a single finger on you, whole society knows that you are a good boy/ girl, don't hurt this reputation."
Both accomplish the same goal but with a huge difference. one sets the child upset and frustrated from his/her family along with the uncertainty that the child will follow the rules or not? Other brings cheers to the child's face along with the feeling of responsibility of his/ her and the families reputation on his/ her head.
Just 2 different way of saying ... that's all ... isn't that amazing???
Why would you try to impose a decision when you can make smiles for the same job??
If we look from a distance, what I am talking about is freedom, along with trust and responsibility.
You know, no one likes restrictions, not even animals, we are humans though. Freedom is a great gift to anyone, and if you offer freedom you can receive anything in return. Parents can tie this freedom with responsibilities and see how their child climb hights. They will never find a reason to impose a decision and their child will be ready to do anything for his/ her parents.
Speaking of the child, he/she will always trust his/ her parents and will never let the trust broken. A smile not just on the face but also in heart and the feeling that his/ her parents trust him/ her will never let them go on a wrong track. The best mutual benefit is both will get to know each other and will have an extream level of confidence for each other, quality talks about the day and life, feedbacks & advice about wrongdoing and the best outcome is Parents will always know when the child is going wrong and can save them from falling.
This is also an amazing experience how smart parents stop u from falling, let's assume a child is choosing a track and parents know its a wrong track, but Smart parents don't stop at the very moment, being smart parents they will just make their child warn instead of stopping them and will walk along with the child checking every step. they will save the child from falling at the extream falling point. Which will result in 2 things
1. child realizes the value of his/ her parent's comment and warning and will think 50 times before going against there warning.
2. the will know to judge good and bad tracks, they will develop decision-making skills as they understand what is good and bad.. as they have gone through a bad track, which was not possible otherwise