Adarsha Shah's Blog

 Do you get to see your father smiling often? One common characteristic of middle class father is not smiling or even talking with ease. We mostly classify them as "Saadu", "Unki shakal humesa aisi hi bani rathi hai" etc.  You will find your mother smiling and making you smile. You will find that your wishes are coming true, it may take some time but it is coming true. You will find everyone in the family with new dresses but father is not ready to part ways with his old shirt and pant even when it is worn out.  Was the father always like this? as a kid, father also used to smile and make a lot of wishes. He also enjoyed new dresses. He used to dream as well.  What changed this lively kid to a Saadu father? For a father, every family member is of much more importance than himself. He will do everything in his control to see you all smile. He will Sacrifice everything to fulfill your wish. He is always in pressure of how will he fight with tomorrow. He is always work...

Have you ever been to a marriage where you are the only family member? It has been more than a year that I attended a marriage where I was the only family member available for the whole night, and the full family is consist of more than 50 people. I WAS THERE BECAUSE I BELIEVE EVERY ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE THEIR LIFE PARTNER, GOOD OR BAD, WHATEVER. WHO AM I TO JUDGE SOMEONE? Ho sakta hai ki mujhe kisi insan se parasani ho par iska ye matlab nahi ki mai apne vichar puri duniye pe thop de. Us waqt mere akele hone ki em matr wajha ye thi ki kisi ne baki sabhi par apne vichar thop diye the, aaj v thopa hua hai aur log duvidha me kaha ki kya kare, kaha jai? Par sachai to yahi hai ki aap apne vichar ek bar to kisi pe thop sakte hai par bar bar bhut dino tak to nahi. Apne vichar apne tak rakhiye, dusro ko apne vichar jahir karne dijiye. I really don't understand why do we have this culture to choose the life partner for others? where do we find this culture? I have heard of...

You know where it starts? With us. Either we are the culprit or we are the ignorant. I find friends talking about Hollywood movies, why not movies like Pink. How much we are willing to stand by someone we don't even know? Aajnabi se dur raho, right? how many of us treat the girl with respect whom we had a break-up with? She is not of a good character, right ? Its an Opportunity for us if we find a girl who just had a break-up. No one cares what she thinks. if she comes with you she is a SLU_ and if she doesn't, we comment on her, Obviously nothing good. It's nicely described in the movie the rule book that we boys follow. Ever wondered how it feels to be called with some special adjectives. A family is the greatest gift anyone can have. how would it feel to lose the confidence of a family bcoz of some mistakes done unintentionally? We have friends at their bad times and we say "yarr  dur raho uusce, uusne aaisa kia, wo aaisa/aaisi hai...

Whatever they were in life, here, in the end, each man stood with courage and honor. They fought for the ones who couldn't fight for themselves, and they died for them too. All to win something that didn't belong to them. It was... MAGNIFICIENT. Who you are? are you strong? strong enough to fight for someone you don't even know? What do we do when we are in a problem? seek for help? We search for people who already have been there and can be there again for us, Someone who could stand for us. We don't always find one, sometimes we are left alone, so alone that even our close friends part ways, so far away that they even refuse to talk with us. This is the time that a strong person is born or a weak person is sent to death.  We have heard a lot of deaths like this when a weak person crosses its level of tolerance and gives up his life. We can surely point fingers on them that they were weak, they should have fought, but this won't make us less gui...

"You will always remain a dog... Until you are taught to be the master..." If I say in nice words, "You will always be dominated by others until you are taught to dominate others..." This is the rule of nature, the animal which can dominate other animals rules the Jungle and no one is there to question unless the ruler's dominance falls weak. This fact is well displayed in the movie Django, A black man named Django serving as a slave for years was bought by a businessman, obviously for personal benefits, but apart from that personal benefit, he declared him a free man and taught him to be a free man and also, how to do the business that he did. At the end of the movie, Django was supposed to free his wife from some white owner. He went to that place, that businessman accompanied and suggested a plan but the plan failed and got the businessman killed and himself slaved again. On the way when Django was being carried in a cell by 3 white men along wit...

How was your last breakup?  Maybe you cried for about 3-4 days, were upset for few weeks, and finally, you were emotionally broken and decided never to trust anyone again. Right? Imagine how tough it would be for a girl who was physically abused!!! It was just an emotional attachment that turned you this much, it took you so long to recover, and that too not completely... What about her? Maybe she had relations with 100s, but it was with her approval. When someone refused to stay emotionally attached to you, you were broken for months. So how long does she require to recover from being physically abused??? I really don't understand why this happens, like what do we need?  Sex? Go for a prostitute you will have it, why to kill someone from inside?  Revenge with that particular girl? Take your revenge but at least maintain the level of your revenge, why to take someone's dignity in revenge? Revenge from someone else? How would it be if I slapped you...